Jasmine Charchun

How I KNEW I Was Stuck in a Rut

I knew that something in my life wasn’t right for many, many years. At the time I thought if I just worked harder and achieved more I could outrun feelings of unfulfillment and fatigue. Whenever I felt that urge to try something that might challenge my ‘stuckness’, I would double down on my efforts to ‘achieve’ my way out of my disenchantment. Does this sound familiar? If so, let’s take a look at the beliefs that kept me stuck in a rut. Maybe these beliefs are keeping you stuck too.

"Don't live the same year 75 times and call it a life."

~Robin Sharma

1. I BELIEVED in Limiting Beliefs

I became engulfed in the life sucking circle of ‘I’m too _____(fill in the blank) in order to ___________(fill in the blank). I had a particular skill for filling in the blank with my favourite words like inexperienced, exhausted, old, fat, and my favourite…busy! Any excuse would do because I fully and completely embraced my limiting beliefs. I thought these beliefs were unquestioning (Hint-I later learned I was WRONG!) Does any of this sound familiar?

2. I forgot about POSSIBILITY

Let’s hop into a time machine, I’m a young girl enthralled by the skating expertise of Kristi Yamaguchi at the 1994 Winter Olympics. After skating on my living room carpet, I knew that I was going to be an Olympian. Did I ever reach the Olympics? Nope, but it did fuel my passion for all things sports. Like many children, I lived a life where possibility reigned. As I started ‘adulting’, I slowly forgot about possibility, which was eventually replaced by limitations and practicality. Does this ring a bell?

“What might happen today if you asked for what you needed?”

~ME! (Jasmine Charchun)

3. I was TIRED with a capital 'T'

When I say tired, I don’t mean I stayed up late to watch the latest episode of Game of Thrones. I was ‘soul tired’ which meant that my spirit felt drained to the point of utter fatigue. I was tired from the tip of my toes to the top of my afro-I was sleep walking through my life day after day-year after year. The most important elements of my life that use to feel fulfilling and exhilarating felt completely empty. Am I hitting a nerve?